Thursday, December 11, 2014

Calling All College Students Interested in Interning on Cape Cod!

Cape Cod is an amazing location to spend your summer earning credits towards your degree and why not spend it working with some of the best in the wedding industry?!

Wedding vendors located on Cape Cod, MA are looking for interns for the upcoming summer season. These vendors include, but are not limited to: wedding planner, photographers, videographers, florists, stationery design, make-up and hair artists, catering, Djs and so many more!

There will be a meet and greet held on January 7,2015 at Wequassett Resort in Harwich from 10:00am-11:30am.
This is an opportunity for students to come and meet the vendors in the industry, learn about their business and possibly land an intern position for the 2015 season!

There is a limited amount of space so please RSVP if this is something you are interested in attending. RSVP at

We hope to see you there! Come learn about these great vendors and show them what you are all about!

Are you a vendor interested in joining the meet and greet event?  Please email

Wednesday, December 3, 2014

Music Selections for Your Wedding

Let’s be honest.  Everyone knows that the wedding night is all about being on the dance floor and having a blast with your friends and family.  And one of the hard parts of planning for this portion of the evening is giving your band or DJ the song choices you want to hear that night.  Here are a couple of things to keep in mind and help you through the process of selecting your songs.

Have a Dance Party
One of my close friends, who is a music fanatic, decided to have a dance party at their house to go through song choices that they thought they would want to hear at their wedding.  If they played the song and you couldn’t dance to it, they took it off the list.  What a fun way to narrow down ideas!

First Dance
There are so many first dance songs out there to choose from, but what I recommend is to choose one that really speaks to you, even if it is not a typical first dance, love song.  One of my best friends had her first dance with her husband to Hall and Oates’ “You Make My Dreams Come True” which totally reflected their personalities and was one of their personal favorites. Make it your own!

Dance Lessons
So in all of the years I have been wedding planning I have had mixed thoughts on the dance lessons.  Here is what I have ultimately decided on – if you are going to take dance lessons, just learn how to dance more than just swaying and turning in a constant circle.  Maybe add a dip or spin in here or there, but learning a full on dance from start to finish is just tricky.  And all you are thinking about at that moment is what step you are supposed to do and if you are going to mess it up instead of focusing on dancing with the person you just married.  My two cents!

Parent Dances
If you are going to dance with your mom or dad, I recommend choosing the song with your parent and making sure both of you are comfortable with it.  Some couples even choose to do the dances as one parent dance where the bride and groom are on the dance floor at the same time with their mom and/or dad.  Another way to make it a bit less awkward is to ask other father/daughter or mother/son pairs at the wedding to join you half way through  the song.

Do Not Play List
This list is very important!!  A lot of bands and DJs here the same songs (organized dance songs are typically on this list) but you need to think of songs that annoy you, make you think of an ex or just are terrible dance songs.  Be sure to include all of these on your list and be specific with your band or DJ about those songs and if you will allow for requests.

Leave it to the Pros
When it comes down to it, I highly recommend making your lists of songs and then just leave it to the pros.  They do this every weekend and know what the crowd wants at certain times.  Don’t expect them to play straight from your playlist the entire time.  Be open to their interpretation of the crowd.  And hire the best!  The band or DJ is not a place to skimp in your budget!  Ask for references and check out reviews online!

"I always welcome song ideas from the bride and groom. When choosing music, it's a good idea to use popular songs that most people will know at your wedding. Most of the time if people don't know it they won't dance or they'll leave the floor.” - DJ Danny Walsh

Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Wedding Party Gifts

Picking your wedding party is a big deal.  Finding the right people to stand next to you while you marry the person of your dreams can be a stressful task.  The role of a bridesmaid or groomsman can also be quite an undertaking, especially if you are the Maid of Honor or Best Man.  Throughout your planning process these are the people that are there for you when you have crazy ideas or need to vent or need to plan a bachelor or bachelorette party.  It is really important that you find a nice way to thank them for supporting you throughout the planning and on your special day.  Here are some ideas on what you can give those in your bridal party as a thank you.

Photo by Hike Photography

Maid of Honor & Bridesmaids
There are lots of options when it comes to gifting your ladies for their help.  Most of the time the Maid of Honor may get a little something more depending on what her role was throughout the planning.  Below is a bulleted list of ideas you can consider - budget depending of course.  You should take into consideration what they spent on you for your day (dress, shoes, hotel, gifts) when you consider what would be a good budget for their gifts back.
  • Buy their bridesmaid dress - if you have it in the budget, that savings makes being a bridesmaid so much easier!
  • Accessories - necklace, earrings, shoes, bracelet, pashmina, wristlet, etc. Anything you would want them to maybe use or wear on your wedding day, just make sure it is rewearable!
  • Hotel Room - again, if you have it in the budget, bunk up your girls to all stay together!
  • Bottle of Champagne or nice wine
  • Robes or pajama pants to get ready in
  • Personalized hangers, tote bag, wine glasses

Best Man & Groomsmen
There are lots of options when it comes to gifting your as well for their help.  Most of the time thebest Man may get a little something more depending on how helpful he has been wrangling the guys to get their stuff done.  Below is a bulleted list of ideas you can consider - budget depending of course.  You should take into consideration what they spent on you for your day (suit, hotel, gifts) when you consider what would be a good budget for their gifts back.
  • Rent their suit for them - if you have it in the budget, that savings makes being a groomsman so much easier!
  • Accessories - tie, cufflinks, socks, shoes, tie clip, suspenders, etc.  Check with your bride-to-be on this one as well because some of this should coordinate with the wedding colors or theme!
  • Hotel Room - again, if you have it in the budget, bunk up your guys to all stay together!
  • Cigars or a good scotch or whiskey
  • Money clip

Flower Girl & Ring Bearer
For the kids, get them something they can play with all weekend or at the wedding itself.  Pack a bag full of coloring books, crayons, bubbles, disposable camera, etc.  I would also recommend purchasing their outfits if you can because it is a nice relief for the parents not to have to worry about buying something their kid will only wear once!

Friday, September 19, 2014

Father of the Bride - What is Your Wedding Role?

Photo by Person + Killian Photography
As the Father of the Bride, you have one of the most important roles at your daughter’s wedding, but you may feel left out throughout the planning process as the bride tends to do most of the planning with her mom.

Most dads are okay with the fact that they don’t have to do much, but others want to be included throughout the process as they can, seeing that they may be writing most of the checks to make this dream wedding come to life.  Below are some roles that the Father of the Bride (FOB) can jump into throughout the planning process if he really wants to be a part of the journey.

Food & Beverage
The food and beverage is definitely a big part of the wedding day and a great place for the FOB to chime in if he wants to.  Some FOBs love food, wine, beers, etc. and want to make sure the best is selected for his daughter’s special day.  If your venue or caterer offers a tasting, this is also a great place for the FOB to be included!

Depending on if the FOB has an interest in photos or florals, this is a great place to help your daughter select vendors.  I have worked with FOBs in the past that have a green thumb and are really interested in the floral selections.  Others love photography and want to help the couple select their photographer for the day.  It all depends on how much the FOB cares about certain vendors that the couple will book.

Walking Your Daughter Down the Aisle
So although a lot of FOBs don’t feel very included during the planning process, they do get one of the most important roles of the day - walking their daughter down the aisle.  Couple of things to note - you will stand on her right so that your right hand is available to shake her groom’s hand.  When you get her up to the front, be sure to give her a hug or a kiss, shake the hand of the groom (or give him a hug) and hand her off!

Welcome Toast

Another very popular role for the FOB is the welcome toast.  Typically the welcome toast is right before dinner is served, or before the blessing.  This is usually very short and sweet and congratulates the couple and thanks everyone for coming to celebrate for the weekend.  Sometimes the couple will do this toast if they are hosting the event, but a lot of the time the Father will do this toast.

Father/Daughter Dance
Finally, another very important role is the father/daughter dance.  So start thinking of what song you want to share with your daughter on her wedding day.  If your daughter chooses to have this as a formal event, the DJ or band will call the both of you to the dance floor to share your special dance together.  This is usually followed by the mother/son dance and a killer dance party!

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

The NotWedding Returns to Cape Cod November 9th!

Photo of one of our tablescapes from last year's event by Shoreshotz Photography
If you are you a bride (or groom!) and getting married on Cape Cod in the next couple of years, read on! The NotWedding is returning to Cape Cod on November 9th at the Sea Crest Beach Hotel in Falmouth.

So what is the NotWedding, one might ask?  Well this killer bridal show alternative comes
complete with dinner and drinks, an emotional ceremony and a dance-party reception.   The hand-selected vendors perform their services as they would at a real wedding, and the “wedding guests” get to hear the music, taste the cakes, and smell the flowers… while enjoying a night of great food, dancing and surprises, leaving brides-to-be saying “I want my wedding to be just like that!”

For brides and grooms, the event serves as a source of inspiration, a resource in finding trusted wedding vendors and an emotional reminder to plan for what comes after the wedding: a marriage! For participating wedding vendors, the event exposes their business to new referral sources, while also exposing each vendor to a wealth of inspiration, resources and confidence to take their business to the next level.

The NotWedding originated in Atlanta and came to Cape Cod for the first time last year.  Since then, the event has expanded all over the country. There were 25+ events all over the US last year and next year there will be even more! The NotWedding travels to cities like Boston, New York, Charlotte, Nashville, Atlanta, Charleston, Denver and more.  So if you can't make it to the Cape Cod event, check it out to see if you can attend in another city!

This year’s NotCouple will be Jessica & Mike - a Coast Guard couple who will be renewing their vows at the Cape Cod event and inspiring couples with their attire, their commitment to a solid marriage and some amazing dance moves.

Buy your tickets soon, as only a limited number are available!  It is an event NOT to be missed!

Tickets are $30 and can be purchased online by clicking here.

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Cape Cod Wedding Emergency Kit

The last thing you want to think about is an emergency on your wedding day, but you never know what could possibly happen.  I have had bridesmaids' zippers get stuck and tear, and I had to literally sew her into her dress.  Stains on dresses or even guests, clothing, headaches, hair issues, stinky name it, it can happen! 

I have compiled a list of things that I keep in my emergency kit while I am working weddings.  It is best to put your Maid of Honor on this task and to be the manager of the kit if you do not have a planner on site that has one.
  • Band-Aids
  • Bobby pins
  • Chalk (to cover up any stains on your wedding dress)
  • Eye drops
  • Extra earring backs
  • Extra panty hose
  • Floss
  • Hair elastics
  • Hair spray
  • Hem tape
  • IBUprofen
  • Krazy Glue
  • Lipstick (Bride’s color)
  • Lighter
  • Mini sewing kit
  • Mouthwash
  • Safety pins
  • Scissors
  • Snacks (Like granola bars)
  • Static-cling spray
  • Straight pins
  • Sunscreen
  • Tape (Regular & Double Sided)
  • Tide to go
  • Tissues
  • Toothbrush & paste
  • Tweezers
  • Water

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Wedding Weather

Alanna Scully Photography
If you did not know already, the only thing that you cannot control at your wedding is the weather.  Everything else can be timed out and planned to a T, but the rain or sun or snow or hurricane is something you will not know until about 3 days before, if not even the day of.  That is why we recommend taking the following actions to be as best prepared for any type of weather that may come your way on your wedding day.

Weather Forecasts
Take it from a pro who has three weather apps on her phone and checks them frantically leading up to every weekend, that no matter how many apps you have, they are all going to be different.  I highly recommend not looking at your weather forecast until at least 5 days out, as in my experience the 10 day forecast is always wrong.  At three days you are going to be rather close as to what is going to happen and even up until the day of it could change.  Why you ask?  Mostly because you are getting married on Cape Cod where it may be raining in Brewster but sunny in Dennis!

Backup Plans
No matter what you need to have a backup plan in place for at least rain, if not worse if it is a time of year that is prone to snow or nor’easters.  For any of my clients planning on a tented event, outdoor ceremony and/or cocktail hour, we always have a rain plan at the bottom of our time line.  That way we can hop over to that plan if we need to the day of the wedding and be ready to go with indoor options.   If your ceremony is supposed to be on the beach and the backup plan is a conference room with no windows, you have to make sure that you can envision that happening.  Granted, it is the worst case scenario, but if you do not think it all through you could be super sad when you’re inside instead of out.

Tented Events
If you are planning to have a tented event, this post is really for you.  One thing that you have to be 100% okay with is that it could potentially downpour on your wedding day.  If you are not okay with that, then you need to find a ceremony and reception location that is indoors or at least have a  backup plan that you are okay with.  For tents, you can also talk to your tent company about rain tent options.  This is where you reserve a tent for your ceremony or cocktail hour backup and then at the three day out mark you can decide if you want to put it up or not.  If you decide not to, the tent company will only charge you half the cost of the tent.  To me that is pretty great rain insurance!