Friday, September 19, 2014

Father of the Bride - What is Your Wedding Role?

Photo by Person + Killian Photography
As the Father of the Bride, you have one of the most important roles at your daughter’s wedding, but you may feel left out throughout the planning process as the bride tends to do most of the planning with her mom.

Most dads are okay with the fact that they don’t have to do much, but others want to be included throughout the process as they can, seeing that they may be writing most of the checks to make this dream wedding come to life.  Below are some roles that the Father of the Bride (FOB) can jump into throughout the planning process if he really wants to be a part of the journey.

Food & Beverage
The food and beverage is definitely a big part of the wedding day and a great place for the FOB to chime in if he wants to.  Some FOBs love food, wine, beers, etc. and want to make sure the best is selected for his daughter’s special day.  If your venue or caterer offers a tasting, this is also a great place for the FOB to be included!

Photographer/Florist
Depending on if the FOB has an interest in photos or florals, this is a great place to help your daughter select vendors.  I have worked with FOBs in the past that have a green thumb and are really interested in the floral selections.  Others love photography and want to help the couple select their photographer for the day.  It all depends on how much the FOB cares about certain vendors that the couple will book.

Walking Your Daughter Down the Aisle
So although a lot of FOBs don’t feel very included during the planning process, they do get one of the most important roles of the day - walking their daughter down the aisle.  Couple of things to note - you will stand on her right so that your right hand is available to shake her groom’s hand.  When you get her up to the front, be sure to give her a hug or a kiss, shake the hand of the groom (or give him a hug) and hand her off!

Welcome Toast

Another very popular role for the FOB is the welcome toast.  Typically the welcome toast is right before dinner is served, or before the blessing.  This is usually very short and sweet and congratulates the couple and thanks everyone for coming to celebrate for the weekend.  Sometimes the couple will do this toast if they are hosting the event, but a lot of the time the Father will do this toast.

Father/Daughter Dance
Finally, another very important role is the father/daughter dance.  So start thinking of what song you want to share with your daughter on her wedding day.  If your daughter chooses to have this as a formal event, the DJ or band will call the both of you to the dance floor to share your special dance together.  This is usually followed by the mother/son dance and a killer dance party!

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

The NotWedding Returns to Cape Cod November 9th!

Photo of one of our tablescapes from last year's event by Shoreshotz Photography
If you are you a bride (or groom!) and getting married on Cape Cod in the next couple of years, read on! The NotWedding is returning to Cape Cod on November 9th at the Sea Crest Beach Hotel in Falmouth.

So what is the NotWedding, one might ask?  Well this killer bridal show alternative comes
complete with dinner and drinks, an emotional ceremony and a dance-party reception.   The hand-selected vendors perform their services as they would at a real wedding, and the “wedding guests” get to hear the music, taste the cakes, and smell the flowers… while enjoying a night of great food, dancing and surprises, leaving brides-to-be saying “I want my wedding to be just like that!”

For brides and grooms, the event serves as a source of inspiration, a resource in finding trusted wedding vendors and an emotional reminder to plan for what comes after the wedding: a marriage! For participating wedding vendors, the event exposes their business to new referral sources, while also exposing each vendor to a wealth of inspiration, resources and confidence to take their business to the next level.

The NotWedding originated in Atlanta and came to Cape Cod for the first time last year.  Since then, the event has expanded all over the country. There were 25+ events all over the US last year and next year there will be even more! The NotWedding travels to cities like Boston, New York, Charlotte, Nashville, Atlanta, Charleston, Denver and more.  So if you can't make it to the Cape Cod event, check it out to see if you can attend in another city!

This year’s NotCouple will be Jessica & Mike - a Coast Guard couple who will be renewing their vows at the Cape Cod event and inspiring couples with their attire, their commitment to a solid marriage and some amazing dance moves.

Buy your tickets soon, as only a limited number are available!  It is an event NOT to be missed!

Tickets are $30 and can be purchased online by clicking here.

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Cape Cod Wedding Emergency Kit

The last thing you want to think about is an emergency on your wedding day, but you never know what could possibly happen.  I have had bridesmaids' zippers get stuck and tear, and I had to literally sew her into her dress.  Stains on dresses or even guests, clothing, headaches, hair issues, stinky breath...you name it, it can happen! 

I have compiled a list of things that I keep in my emergency kit while I am working weddings.  It is best to put your Maid of Honor on this task and to be the manager of the kit if you do not have a planner on site that has one.
  • Band-Aids
  • Bobby pins
  • Chalk (to cover up any stains on your wedding dress)
  • Eye drops
  • Extra earring backs
  • Extra panty hose
  • Floss
  • Hair elastics
  • Hair spray
  • Hem tape
  • IBUprofen
  • Krazy Glue
  • Lipstick (Bride’s color)
  • Lighter
  • Mini sewing kit
  • Mouthwash
  • Safety pins
  • Scissors
  • Snacks (Like granola bars)
  • Static-cling spray
  • Straight pins
  • Sunscreen
  • Tape (Regular & Double Sided)
  • Tide to go
  • Tissues
  • Toothbrush & paste
  • Tweezers
  • Water

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Wedding Weather

Alanna Scully Photography
If you did not know already, the only thing that you cannot control at your wedding is the weather.  Everything else can be timed out and planned to a T, but the rain or sun or snow or hurricane is something you will not know until about 3 days before, if not even the day of.  That is why we recommend taking the following actions to be as best prepared for any type of weather that may come your way on your wedding day.

Weather Forecasts
Take it from a pro who has three weather apps on her phone and checks them frantically leading up to every weekend, that no matter how many apps you have, they are all going to be different.  I highly recommend not looking at your weather forecast until at least 5 days out, as in my experience the 10 day forecast is always wrong.  At three days you are going to be rather close as to what is going to happen and even up until the day of it could change.  Why you ask?  Mostly because you are getting married on Cape Cod where it may be raining in Brewster but sunny in Dennis!

Backup Plans
No matter what you need to have a backup plan in place for at least rain, if not worse if it is a time of year that is prone to snow or nor’easters.  For any of my clients planning on a tented event, outdoor ceremony and/or cocktail hour, we always have a rain plan at the bottom of our time line.  That way we can hop over to that plan if we need to the day of the wedding and be ready to go with indoor options.   If your ceremony is supposed to be on the beach and the backup plan is a conference room with no windows, you have to make sure that you can envision that happening.  Granted, it is the worst case scenario, but if you do not think it all through you could be super sad when you’re inside instead of out.

Tented Events
If you are planning to have a tented event, this post is really for you.  One thing that you have to be 100% okay with is that it could potentially downpour on your wedding day.  If you are not okay with that, then you need to find a ceremony and reception location that is indoors or at least have a  backup plan that you are okay with.  For tents, you can also talk to your tent company about rain tent options.  This is where you reserve a tent for your ceremony or cocktail hour backup and then at the three day out mark you can decide if you want to put it up or not.  If you decide not to, the tent company will only charge you half the cost of the tent.  To me that is pretty great rain insurance!

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Fun Wedding Add Ons!

When you get into the last couple of months of your planning process and you have some extra wiggle room in the budget, it is a good time to look into fun wedding add ons to your party.  There are so many new ideas out there, way more than I can list here, but we have come up with a list of great wedding add ons that would work well at any Cape Cod wedding.

Food Truck
Food Trucks are so much fun and make a great late night snack option!  Food Trucks have been all over the big cities for a while now and the trend has finally hit Cape Cod.  There are a number of different food truck vendors on Cape Cod from Wellfleet to Falmouth that you can book for your wedding.  Fiddlesticks, DPM and CDogs to name a few!

Photo Booth
Photo booths are a great way to entertain guests, act as a favor and make memories!  There are not many specific photo booth vendors on the Cape, but there are many photographers that offer the photo booth as an option to their packages.  Most booths do take up some space, so be sure you have the room in your venue before you book.

Flip Book Booth
Similar to a photo booth, but with a bit more action, you will find a Flip Book Booth.  Here is where your guests can get dressed up in fun attire and make a mini 8-second video that is instantly turned into a flip book to take home.  Personalize the cover with your wedding colors, names, etc.  It is one of our favorites!

Poetry Booth
This one has not yet officially made it to Cape Cod, but I was fortunate enough to have fun with one while I was at The NotWedding in NYC this past April.  The company is called The Haiku Guys and is definitely a topic conversation.  Give the Haiku writer a topic of your choice and come back later for your very own personalized Haiku.  Super fun and they will travel!

Live Wedding Painter
Your wedding photos are one thing and are definitely worth splurging on, but how cool would it be to have someone there painting your ceremony or your first dance or your reception live?!  Many local artists offer this service, just ask!  It is very interesting for your guests to watch, but also serves as an amazing keepsake from your day!

There are so many other fun options to add into your wedding from little details like straws and personalized pint glasses to candy buffets and sundae bars!  If you want to add in something clever, think about what best reflects you, your family and your party!

Thursday, May 15, 2014

SCORE Small Business Owner of the Year 2014

Recently I was honored by the Cape Cod SCORE chapter as their Small Business Owner of the Year!  It was completely unexpected and I was extremely honored to receive the award amongst other wonderful small businesses on Cape Cod.  Due to the honor, I was also asked to be on the cover of Cape & Plymouth Business Magazine!  I had so much fun shooting the cover with Julia Cumes and am so grateful for Lisa George and her team for doing my hair and makeup last minute as well as Designers Touch for pulling together a beautiful bouquet for the shoot.  And it was great going back to Chatham Bars Inn, where I got my start, to pull it all together.  Thank you so much for everyone who has supported me along the way and here is to many more years of event planning!

Friday, May 2, 2014

Wedding Pintervention

Most brides nowadays are taking advantage of the brilliant website Pinterest to collect ideas and find their colors, flowers, cakes, photo ideas, invitations, you name it.  I mean, let’s be honest, it is a wonderful tool that allows you to collect inspiring ideas all in one place.  But after a certain point in your planning process you will need to cave to the Pintervention.  Yes I said it - You need a Pintervention.

Pinterest is a blessing and a curse when it comes to planning your wedding.  There are millions of ideas on the internet and there is no better tool that I know of than Pinterest to collect those ideas as you plan.  But when it comes to the final months of your planning process, and as you start to really decide what you want for your wedding, you need to revisit your wedding board and clean it up.  Delete those ideas that you thought were amazing the day you got engaged and narrow it all down to what you will be actually using for your wedding.  Make it really reflect your personality, your colors, your plan.

Once you realize you need a Pintervention and you complete your clean-up process, then you need to start restricting yourself on things that you look for or that you pin onto your board.  When you reach the 6 month out mark from your wedding day, you need to be sure you have your colors and major ideas decided on, so there is no need to keep looking for other color schemes or themes or dresses!  When you get to 2 months out you are going to limit your pinning to just final details and fun things you may want to add, such as escort cards, guest book ideas, cocktail napkins, signage, etc.  

Don’t get me wrong, as I said, it is a wonderful tool for brides to use - I even share boards with my brides so that I can watch what they pin and I can add pins I see that reflect their plans - but it is smart to realize when you need to slow down and reign everything in.  The last thing you want to do is fall in love with a totally new idea only a couple of months before your wedding!